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Anxiety Disorder Association of Canada

ADAC’s newsletter is full of so many great things. Here’s a sneak peak from the Executive Director

From the Executive Director
I think back to the first time I heard the word comorbidity and
smile. I was sitting in a quaint restaurant in Toronto being
interviewed for my present position of Executive Director and I was
trying to look in control and not let on that I had no clue what the
word meant. Throughout the conversation I finally figured out the
basic meaning. When trying to explain it to others, who have the
same “deer in headlights” look on their face that I probably had
years back when I first heard the word, I try to simplify it by
explaining that it is other symptoms or conditions, whether it be
pain, sick feeling, fatigue, depression, alcoholism or another
anxiety disorder that goes hand in hand with the anxiety disorder
that we have. This Newsletter issue will focus primarily on Anxiety
Disorders and Depression.
When I was in university I was misdiagnosed and made to feel
like a hypochondriac when I now know I was suffering from
anxiety. Now I can’t blame the doctor in question, there were
possibly less information and certainly less training available to
GPs regarding anxiety 25 years ago. I was also probably not
forthcoming with what I was feeling back then, because as I have
written in the past, I thought I was just dumb because I could not
memorize the information I was expected to know for exams. I
am a very competitive person and expect a lot of myself,
admitting to someone even a doctor that I was failing at
something I thought everyone else could do, was too much for
the then 20 year old girl to deal with. I am comforted in knowing
that the same doctor diagnosed a dear friend of mine with Post
Traumatic Stress Disorder a few years back after a very trying
time in her life. He was finally able to see beyond the physical
symptoms and ask the right questions.
There is a fine line in friendship when one must decide how much
they push or encourage a friend to get help for anxiety or any
mental illness. It is even more difficult when a friend’s child is in
need of help. Sadly so many kids today are suffering needlessly
and the schools don’t always have the resources to identify
problems or help the kids. I applaud those of you who have
taken your child or teenage for therapy, I know it is not an easy
thing to do…I’ve had to do it myself. It is particularly difficult if
the child’s other parent does not agree with you. There are times
in life when we have to choose our battles; this is one worth
fighting for. Talk openly with your doctor about your feelings and
about your life situation whether it be divorce, financial issues,
gender issues, your kids, or anything that concerns you. Find
help where you can, anxiety disorders are treatable and you have
the right to live happily ever after.
Wishing you a summer of laughter, warm weather and good times
with loved ones.
Genevieve Charette, Executive Director

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Influence Educators by contributing your stories

In combination with a project funded by the Mental Health Commission of Canada, PCMH has been consulted regarding the creation of a video for educators from the parent perspective.  It is meant to give educators the messages that families want them to know when dealing with their children who have mental illness.

PLEASE CONTRIBUTE YOUR INPUT – THIS IS AN EXCELLENT OPPORTUNITY FOR OUR VOICE AND OUR MESSAGES

We are asking this:
Please give an example of one thing a teacher/educational professional has done for you/your child that has positively impacted you/your child (this should be something that was a simple act ie: the way they had a conversation with you – they called you to offer support, something put in place in the classroom that did not require additional resources but understanding, they way they handled a situation or something they did to help the class understand)

Also give an example of something that negatively impacted you/your child – either in the way a meeting was conducted, a situation poorly communicated etc etc

The goal is to create a type of dos and don’ts list – how to and how to not talk to families – that type of thing

Also – ask your child who their favourite teacher has been and why.

Submit these back to PCMH ASAP so we can start to have an influence on this important project!

Understanding is all we ask…

It really is amazing how much the little things can make an impact on someone. Choosing words and actions wisely really can mean the difference of a total meltdown vs. calm and understanding and co-operation. This morning from the moment we were about to leave the house Sydney’s action clearly indicated that she wanted NOTHING to do with school. She didn’t want to be up and get ready, she scowled at the breakfast table and she snapped at everyone around her. Hmmm… do I get angry with her and upset the situation even more or do I acknowledge the hardship, verbalize it and help her get out the door. I of course chose the latter.
It wasn’t long before the clock ticked on and it was time to go. She grabbed her bag in a huff, drew a very big sigh out of her mouth and proceeded to stomp to the door. Quickly put her shoes on and raced out the door only to flop herself on the chair outside on the porch. She sat on the porch with hood up and over her face and dismissed herself temporarily from the world. Clearly something was making her uncomfortable and angry and you know what in our household those feelings are not only allowed but encouraged. We all have days were we feel like the world is caving in on us and for my daughter when that feeling comes on it shakes her down to her core. The trick is learning how to catch it and deal with it before it completely snowballs.
So as she sat on the front porch I knew that it was my chance to help her through these very hard and very real feelings.
So what did I do?

  1. I acknowledged her feelings – I let her know that I could see she was upset and worried.
  2. I asked her if she could tell me how she was feeling – she was able to say she didn’t want to go to school because she was tired and worried about what the day will be like. It’s twin day tomorrow and she hadn’t asked anyone if she could be twins with her so she feels not so good about herself. We talked about a few people she could ask to be twins with and she began to perk up. But the whole walk to school was on my arm, holding my hand.
  3. Breathe – we took a moment to take a few deep breaths.
  4. Affirmations – in the schoolyard just at her line up everyone else was already in the classroom and we took a few minutes to do some positive affirmations.
  5. Support – her teacher supported her by coming down and acknowledging her feels of vulnerability and fear and told her that perhaps today they could stick together. The class was also having a little treat today and she told Sydney what that treat was because the fear of the unexpected “treat” loomed with Sydney instead of made her interested and happy.

By the end of the conversation Sydney hugged her teacher and together. I’m not sure if Sydney’s teacher realizes just how much she did for her this morning. I’m not sure that she quite realizes how calming and soothing it was for Sydney. Understanding that she’s not in a good place and allowing her the time to work through these feelings is all we ask. Perhaps some would say that in this world we don’t have time for feelings and getting through things. To those people I leave you with this thought:

“I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experience behind him.

Quote by  Eleanor Roosevelt Roosevelt 1884-1962″

Imagine making a difference… a real difference

Over the last couple weeks I have spent some time taking in all of the wonderful emails from the Parents Raising Children with Social Anxiety Facebook group and looking back on some of the earlier posts about our struggles with our daughter and it has prompted me to step things up. The purpose of the blog, and the Facebook group is to create a forum where we can all talk about our children and their challenges with anxiety. It is a place to tell us your strategies and your accomplishments. Building up our resources and information is how we can move forward and everyone can bring something to the table.

So, here’s where you the reader comes in to this whole evolution. I want to know from you what you’d like to see here. What things would help you get through your days, what information would be helpful to you. Share your fears, accomplishments and milestones. I am the biggest advocate for making sure the little stuff gets acknowledged because those little things are the building blocks for the big stuff.

So please join me in creating an environment for change, a voice for expression and a cheering crowd for each and every achievement.

Canadian Mental Health Association

The Annual General Meeting for the Canadian Mental Health Association – Halton Region Branch will be held on
Tuesday, June 14, 2011 at 5:30 p.m.
St. Volodymyr Cultural Centre
1280 Dundas Street West
Oakville, Ontario

Keynote Speaker:
Lieutenant-General
The Honourable
Romeo A. Dallaire

For tickets please contact Kim Bell kbell@cmhahrb.ca or 905 693 4270

Getting the most out of life

Chocolate Race

Most of us think that New Year’s Eve is a great time to make new resolutions, find new ways of improving ourselves for the upcoming year ahead. A new beginning a fresh start but have you ever thought about re-evaluating your passions when the sun is bright and we are about to head into summer? Why not? Life is forever changing and everything around us is adapting and changing faster than we can keep up with it. So why not find a warm spot in early morning sunshine, stretch out your body and give yourself a chance to catch up with and get in tune with your whole self.

Allowing these moments of calm and relaxation gives us a chance to really listen to what we want, where we want to go and where our bodies are at. Here’s a great article that was in the May issue of Vitality magazine. It gives important resources and strategies that work us through finding our passions and reaching our goals. After all that’s what life is all about right.

In every person there dwells an incredible force called passion. For many, it is experienced occasionally in small bursts of energy. For others, it is a lived sense of inner power propelling the person forward with a vigour and commitment in all that they do. Passion is an outward expression of our spiritual self, which fuels our inner energy. Those living with passion have intense and long lasting energy reserves. They do not tire all that easily, as they are continuously recharged by their spirit.

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